Soul Mates?

I always found it funny when I heard the phrase ‘soul mates’, I mean what is that? (If you have the answer, please feel free to comment! Again-this is my opinion, not wrong or right, just mine)

There is no human way possible that one person in the world can provide everything for you to make you feel ‘complete’ (if that’s even possible, which is another discussion all together) It’s like the term ‘best friend’ or ‘bff’ as they now term it on the world wide web. So if you call someone your best friend that means that all your other friends are 2^nd, 3^rd, 4^th and 50^th best, I’m not sure why we try to use this hierarchy to rank those closest to us, it seems a little dumb to me.

Just think about it, for those of you who may be married or in a committed relationship, how many times do you feel like your partner just doesn’t get it, or isn’t what you need at a certain moment in time? It’s not that you don’t love them, or have a perfectly functioning and loving relationship, it’s just that they can’t be your husband/wife, only friend, mother, father, brother, sister and daughter! It’s humanely IMPOSSIBLE. And because they can’t be all these people, they have no way of providing all the facets that make up you as a person.

What I mean is… I feel that our environment (tv shows, reality shows showing the ‘happily ever after’) are drilling it into our heads that we will one day find our ‘everything’, when in reality, NO ONE can be your everything.

I find so much joy from so many different types of people, and people at different stages in their lives. For a while there, I was going along the road of ‘one true soul mate’, when in fact, those types of relationships bring out the worst in me. For example, the other day I went to the movies with two 13 year old girls, it was one of the most satisfying and fun Friday nights I’ve had in a long time! For those few hours, I felt like they were my ‘soul mates’, they shared stories about their school and the ‘drama’ from their lives, while I just listened, laughed and shared the little wisdom I had from my teenager days. It was amazing because I forgot what it was like to be that age, and it was a reminder of how I had grown so much since that time. Without that movie night, I would never have been able to get to that place, to pat myself on the back for accomplishing the things I have since I was 13. I’d like to think that I shared a bit of joy with them as well, a bit of support they may not get everywhere else. You get my drift? All I’m saying is that I’m realizing that I’m the type of person that feeds off others peoples joys & triumphs. And to me-that’s what makes up your SOUL. So…it is going to be my first assignment, to spend the next month involving myself with people & things that I normally wouldn’t, just to see what happens J I have a feeling that its gonna be good-or maybe even GREAT!

Live YOUR Best Life

I have a little extra time to work on ‘me’ right now… I’m not going to post about why I have this extra time, because that’s irrelevant. I think it’s funny when people tell you that you need to “know” yourself before you can ever have a successful relationship with a significant other. I mean, maybe it’s just me-but as long as I’ve known Alana Kathryn Dillette, she is always changing! Yes, I have things about me that remain challenging for me as a person, or things about my personality that stay the same, but I’m forever changing my perception on things, my outlook on life, my fashion sense LOL- I mean, if you think you’re going to one day just wake up and say “Today is the day, I finally KNOW who I am!”, I, personally (and don’t take my opinion too seriously), but I think that’s crazy! I love the fact that life is a continuous journey, forever changing and throwing rocks down your smoothly paved road. Yes, it makes things a little more difficult than planned sometimes, but so much more of a story in the end!

I’ve come to realize that life isn’t just going to one day-all of a sudden, ‘make sense’, in fact, it may never make sense.

This realization has been quite shocking to me, because when I was 13, I would have sworn that 25 was going to be my age of clarity, that I would be married & ‘living happily ever after’ (whatever that means), imagine that! I know you are all thinking of when you were 13 now, and how you used to play M.A.S.H with your friends during class at school to decide what your life would be like (what was it? Mansion, apartment, shack or house LMAO). Or your first ‘love’, and how much it broke your heart when it ended, and then ended again, and again-for however many times it took for you to realize the guy (or girl-let’s not be gender biased here) was an idiot. So now that I finally know this, I’m on a life long mission to embrace these changes and on a continual quest to find a way, everyday to ‘live my best life’ as Oprah (or her writers) would say.

I’m not exactly sure how this is going to work quite yet. I don’t really think there is a method to the madness. But I do plan to share with you some of the things I use to channel my thoughts & energy, whether they’ve failed or not, with the hope that you may also share yours, or just get a laugh from reading. 

Just a little trip down memory lane...